Finding the Right Match: A Deep Look Into the Surrogacy Matching Process

The matching process is one of the most meaningful and emotional parts of a surrogacy journey. It’s the moment when two paths—those of Intended Parents and a Surrogate—come together with a shared purpose: creating a family. While every journey is unique, the heart of the matching process is always the same: connection, trust, and thoughtful guidance.

At Little Miracles, we believe matching is more than logistics. It’s about building a relationship that feels natural, safe, and aligned. Below is a closer look at how the process works, what each step means, and why this stage is so important.

Step 1: Getting to Know Each Person

Before any introductions happen, we spend time learning about each person’s story, values, and hopes for the journey ahead.

For Intended Parents, we explore:

• Their family story and what brought them to surrogacy

• Their communication style

• Their expectations for the relationship with their Surrogate

• Any cultural, personal, or emotional preferences

• Their vision for the journey and beyond

For Surrogates, we learn about:

• Their motivation for becoming a Surrogate

• Their lifestyle, support system, and daily routines

• Their comfort level with communication

• Their hopes for the relationship with Intended Parents

• Their previous pregnancy experiences

This step is foundational. The more we understand, the more intentional and meaningful the match can be.

Step 2: Creating the Matching Profiles

Once both sides complete their screenings and paperwork, we create warm, personalized profiles. These aren’t just checklists—they’re introductions to who each person truly is.

A profile may include:

• Photos

• Personal background

• Family details

• Hobbies and interests

• Communication preferences

• Values and expectations

These profiles help both sides get a sense of each other before the first conversation. Many people say this is the moment they start to feel the journey becoming real.

Step 3: The Introduction Meeting

When we believe we’ve found a strong potential match, we arrange an introduction—usually a video call. This meeting is guided, relaxed, and designed to help everyone feel comfortable.

During this conversation, we talk about:

• Communication expectations

• Boundaries and comfort levels

• Hopes for the relationship

• Thoughts on appointments, updates, and involvement

• What each person envisions for the journey

Most people describe this call as surprisingly natural. There’s often a moment where both sides feel a spark of connection—something that says, “This could be the right fit.”

Step 4: The Reflection Period

After the introduction, both the Intended Parents and the Surrogate take time to reflect. This is an important step. We encourage everyone to think about:

• How the conversation felt

• Whether expectations aligned

• Whether communication felt easy

• Whether the relationship felt comfortable and respectful

There’s no pressure and no rush. A match should feel right—not forced.

Step 5: The “Yes” Moment

If everyone feels good about moving forward, we officially confirm the match. This is often one of the most emotional milestones in the entire journey.

For Intended Parents, it can feel like the first real step toward the family they’ve dreamed of.

For Surrogates, it’s the moment they commit to walking alongside someone through one of the most meaningful experiences of their lives.

Many describe this moment as a mix of excitement, relief, and deep connection.

Step 6: Moving Into the Journey Together

Once matched, the team guides everyone through the next steps:

• Medical clearance

• Legal contracts

• Transfer planning

• Communication support

• Emotional and logistical guidance

The match becomes the foundation for the entire journey. When both sides feel aligned and supported, the experience becomes not just a process—but a partnership.

Why the Matching Process Matters So Much

A thoughtful match sets the tone for everything that follows. When Intended Parents and Surrogates feel connected, respected, and supported, the journey becomes smoother, more joyful, and more meaningful.

A strong match creates:

• Clear communication

• Mutual trust

• Emotional safety

• Shared excitement

• A sense of teamwork

At Little Miracles, we take great care in this stage because we know how deeply it shapes the entire experience.

Final Thoughts

The matching process is more than a step—it’s the heart of the surrogacy journey. It’s where two stories meet, where hope becomes shared, and where the foundation for a beautiful partnership is built.

Whether you’re an Intended Parent dreaming of your future family or a Surrogate ready to give the gift of life, the matching process is where your journey truly begins. And you don’t walk it alone—we’re here to guide, support, and celebrate with you every step of the way.